I can’t sleep so I’m posting this off my phone…I think being gay IS a choice. I say this based on my experiences with the people I know that are gay. My mother obviously had sex with a man to create me and was married to another man for 11 years before she ended up dating and eventually marrying a woman. Of course, she could be bisexual but that isn’t a conversation we have had so I don’t want to make the assumption that she is. I think maybe she chose to be a lesbian - or another way of looking at it, she choose to love a woman who also happened to love her. And I think that’s wonderful.
I’ve gotten further clarification on my stance from someone my age who openly admits to “being queer” but is also attracted to men. She told me she believes sexuality is a spectrum, which I think to a large degree I would agree with. I’m a pretty firm believer that sexuality is something that’s heavily influenced by social norms. I don’t have to go too in depth here, but I think we can all agree that what we find attractive has definitely changed over time (and even varies on a personal basis). If sexuality was just an inherent thing, I don’t think we would see such drastic changes over time in what we find attractive or any differences between personal preferences.
But here’s where I’m going with this. I don’t abuse my belief to stamp on other people’s choices, especially when those choices are as petty as what qualities they find attractive, and I certainly would never take any stance against choosing who you love. I think it’s a choice to be gay, but humankind needs to stand up and say that it’s AN OKAY CHOICE TO MAKE.
Am I going to far? Comments? Thoughts? I’d love to have a conversation about this.